Step 18 - Fall in love with peace and solitude

When you start saying no, it can get lonely. This is why you need to fall in love with your peace and solitude. Taking time to recharge isn't just self-care—it helps you show up better in your relationships. You need to sit with your thoughts, even when it's uncomfortable. This practice helps you gain clarity and maintain emotional balance.

How does this show up in dating?

If you're afraid of being alone, you might develop unhealthy dependencies and convince yourself that you need your partner's constant presence. You might become controlling or jealous, demanding attention at all times. This can lead to anxious attachment, making you uncomfortable when your partner spends time with friends. When something bothers you, you might not give yourself space to process your feelings, instead bottling them up until you eventually lash out. Running on empty can blur boundaries and leave you overwhelmed.

How to work on this?

While it takes time to master, you need to genuinely love your life independently. Build this through establishing your routine and pursuing activities that make you proud. When your happiness depends on someone else, you lack the tools to sustain yourself. The key is to enter relationships knowing you'll thrive whether you're single or partnered.