Step 19 - Do constant check-ins with yourself and trust yourself

Healing is a journey—and definitely not a linear one. Some days you might need to revisit earlier steps in your process, while other days you'll feel completely healed until a trigger appears and knocks you down. When you're in love, being in a relationship can cloud your judgment. The rush of dopamine can make you forget all the healing work you've done. This might explain why you fall back into old dating patterns—the rose-colored glasses of romance make you lose sight of your values.

How does this show up in dating?

Deep down, you know you won't accept someone who gives you the bare minimum, and you know you shouldn't have to prove your worth. Yet, when you're six months into a relationship and emotionally attached, things can change. If your partner starts pulling away, you might find yourself making excuses and fighting for the relationship out of fear of loss—even though you know you deserve better.

How to work on this?

Do regular check-ins with yourself and be honest. Ask yourself: Am I getting swept up? Am I settling for less? Have I become too attached? Am I feeling unusually anxious? Is my desire to find "the one" making me impatient? Whenever something feels off, return to this guide to remind yourself of your healing journey and stay strong. Remember to trust yourself—you're resilient enough to handle whatever comes your way, and you'll be okay.