12/4 - It’s not personal

Often times, people base their self-worth based off of what other people think of them. I’m sure I did too, that where the desperation to show them your worth comes in from because you start to think that if they don’t see my worth, does that mean I’m not worthy? Am I being delusional?

But on my efforts to reframing - I realized I’m actually on the other side to this as well. Deciding people’s worth.

There was this influencer I was trying to negotiate with. Do I think she’s worth the amount she’s asking for? Yeah probably. But it’s also because she places her self at that worth.

My job is to get her for the lowest amount, no matter how worthy I think she is. It’s my job to test to boundaries and negotiate lower. If she accepted that lower price, that’s where her worth would stop at. But the fact that she places herself at a higher dollar amount makes her worth more.

Did I hire her? No. Was it because I didn’t think she was worth the amount she was asking for? Absolutely not. If anything, she’s probably right, and I probably could have gotten 10x more in return if I just paid her what she thought she worth. But me being on the stingy side/unwilling to budge makes me let go of something that could have definitely been exponential in growth.

And I’m sure she’ll find someone that pays what she wants. Again, just cause I didn’t pay her that amount doesn’t mean I don’t think she is worth that amount. It just means I’m too stubborn to change.

If she accepted $10, she would have been worth $10. But she’s waiting for $100, and she’ll get a $100. Patient and self-trust is key to stand on self-worth.

Point is - People want to give the least to get the most. Everything is a business at the end of the day.

The power of your self-worth is always on you. Which is kind of a hard pill for a go-getter to swallow. I was always taught that you need to fight for the things you want. Good things don’t just come to you. But now that I’m working towards detachment, it is almost the opposite. Where you work on your craft and work hard, but good things will come to you. You don’t need to chase.

People will always come back to good things and even if they don’t it’s their loss. In terms of relationships, you just got to focus on being a high-quality person.

Actual day was literally just working. Time is just flying by,

8/10 - Feel better about how I’ve reframed self-worth in my mind.

Intuition - Key is to continue working on my craft, being high-value, patient, and trusting myself = high self-worth. People testing your boundaries on worth is never personal.