Step 11 - Know being authentic is being magnetic

Being authentic is being magnetic—it's a direct correlation. You don't need to be overly nice, perfect, or funny. You just need to be YOU, exactly as you are. When you're emotionally regulated, you're calm and authentic, and that's when people find you magnetic because your energy elevates. People can feel how comfortable and confident you are in your own skin and naturally gravitate towards you. However, when you're communicating from fear or anxiety, people can sense it and perceive it as "trying too hard." When you're being yourself, your energy naturally flows outward. This energy draws people who want to get to know you or be around you, regardless of your personality. It attracts the right people while naturally filtering out those who don't resonate with you. Being yourself sets you up for success and removes dating anxiety because you're genuine.

How does this show up in dating?

Say your date takes you to a party and they're simply cracking puns or eating whatever they want. They're not trying to impress others, which is precisely why people gravitate toward them. In TV shows, people usually prefer those who speak their mind authentically over those who come across as overly polished.

How to work on this?

Stop worrying about impressing others or feeling like you need to be perfect to be liked. Stop overthinking what others might say. The moment that worried thought enters your mind, push through and be yourself anyway. You'll discover how liberating it feels to be authentic. And that's when you'll become magnetic.