Step 12 - Get over your “I hate men/women” era

Many of us reach a point where dating frustrations lead us to develop negative feelings toward an entire gender. This often stems from being hurt and scared deep down. We put up emotional walls as protection. Sometimes, these feelings can come from years of overcompensating, taking us to an extreme position.

How does this show up in dating?

You might find yourself saying things like "All men suck. They're all useless. You can't win with men without playing games." Or "All women are gold diggers and only play games." Making these sweeping generalizations creates a limiting belief—you convince yourself you'll never find the right person because you've decided they don't exist.

How to work on this?

Remember that a healthy relationship looks nothing like this. It's built on equality, mutual respect, and love. There's no need for games or manipulation. Focus on being authentic and tune out external pressure about what you should or shouldn't do. Once you let go of these limiting beliefs, you can drop your defenses and date openly, showing your true self.