Step 13 - Know your self-worth and do not compromise

Self-worth is uniquely powerful because no one can determine it except you—I'd argue it's one of the most valuable currencies in the world. If you believe you deserve someone who will treat you like royalty, that's your value, and no one can challenge that. Eventually, you'll find that person who will give you that treatment. Think of it like luxury goods: someone set a Birkin bag's price at $20,000, and people gladly pay it. Similarly with self-worth, while you may be accessible to fewer people, you'll attract those of higher quality.

How does this show up in dating?

If you want someone who matches your healthy lifestyle, stay true to it—you'll naturally filter out those who don't align. The challenge lies in maintaining your standards because some people will try to make you feel immature or arrogant for your preferences, simply because they can't accept that you won't settle or that they don't meet your criteria. For example, if you're ambitious with big dreams but your date lacks drive, they might label you as superficial or a gold digger for wanting an equally ambitious partner. They'll try to shame you for valuing yourself highly, but remember: you deserve what you want and shouldn't compromise. Just as a Birkin's worth doesn't decrease because some think it's too expensive.

How to work on this?

Deeply internalize your self-worth and elevate yourself instead of others. We've all had that moment in dating where we've thought, "they're perfect—I'll never find better." But you will. Who says so? You do. Create a list of non-negotiable qualities and remember why they matter to you; this will help you stay strong when others try to diminish your standards. Be ready to walk away at any time because your self-worth and self-respect supersede everything else.