Step 2 - Move away from victim mentality

If you find yourself saying things like "Of course, this always happens to me," "No one chooses me," or "Why am I always stuck in toxic relationships?" you're putting yourself in a helpless position—as if the universe is out to get you. This mindset creates negativity instead of fostering positivity and gratitude. While you may have experienced difficult relationships in the past, they were challenging because you allowed others to cross your boundaries. Now, it's your responsibility to heal.

How does this show up in dating?

When you maintain a victim mentality, you set yourself up for failure. Though this may be a natural response to past disappointments, it can damage even great relationships. For example, when facing minor challenges that test your relationship, you might focus on personal hurt rather than working together as a team to solve problems. This attitude can inadvertently manipulate others by making them feel guilty, and it often reflects low self-confidence—suggesting you don't believe you deserve happiness.

How to work on this?

Accept that life happens and that everyone heals at their own pace—including those you date. The world isn't out to get you. Instead, embrace the belief that the universe supports you. If you notice patterns repeating in your life, they might be pointing to areas where you need healing. Remember to affirm daily that you deserve all the happiness in the world.