Step 4 - Reframe your insecurities & limiting beliefs

Now that you've done the work to understand and identify your insecurities and limiting beliefs, it's time to reframe them. This reframing will put you on an equal playing field—you'll realize you're not less than anyone.

How does this show up in dating?

Once you've reframed your insecurities and limiting beliefs, you won't let anyone have control over you or make you feel inferior. You'll quickly recognize that if someone is highlighting your insecurities, they're not the right person for you. But even before that, once YOU stop viewing these as insecurities, no one can make you feel bad. People view you how you view yourself, and once you accept yourself, these aspects simply become part of your story, like "Oh yeah, my parents are separated but they're both happy" or "I actually love my body—this outfit looks so good!"

How to work on this?

To reframe your insecurities, try this exercise: Write down how you'd react if someone you liked had your insecurities. For example, if your insecurity is being overweight, imagine your partner was overweight. You'd likely think they're still perfect. This realization shows that once you accept and reframe your insecurities and limiting beliefs as strengths, you'll see that these insecurities were always bigger in your mind than they were to others.